As parents and carers, you know your kids. You know the types of foods they like ot dislike, the sports, or activities they enjoy. And you know when things just don’t feel right.

Kids, much like all of us adults, are constantly changing and developing new thoughts and emotions, likes and dislikes.

To continue getting to know your child, to stay engaged, and let them know you are there to talk, it is great to check in and start a conversation. They need to know you are their source of trust for anything that might be troubling them.

At Tiny Terrors, we work with kids of all ages. As behavioural psychologists, we have put together some conversation starters on a few topics that might assist you. We recommend bringing up these questions in a safe space, where you are engaged and focused on the conversation.

Gratitude Conversation Starters

According to PositivePsychology.com, gratitude is a “fully understood and appreciated receipt of whatever has been given. The appreciation is returned in a meaningful and heartfelt way, benefiting both receiver and giver. For gratitude to be an effective way to increase happiness, it must be felt, and connective gratitude is the key.”

• What are some things that are easy to complain about, but we’re lucky to have?
• What are some things that you don’t need, but you’re happy that you have?
• What are some things that you get to do that some other people might not be able—or allowed—to do?
• What do you feel grateful for today?

You can also check out our blog, Raising Grateful Kids, for more ideas.

Imagination Conversation Starters

After kids outgrow pretend play, their use of imagination can decrease. Help spark their imagination with these questions.

• If you could have any superpower, what would it be?
• If you won $1000, how would you spend it?
• If you wrote a book, what would it be about?
• If your pets could talk, what would they say? How would they sound?

Empathy Conversation Starters

Empathy is the ability to put yourself in the shoes of someone else and understand what they are feeling or experiencing.

In the early years of life, young children are naturally ego-centric and are very much inclined to think mostly about themselves and their immediate needs. They’re not yet ready to consider the needs and feelings of others.

But developing a sense of empathy is an important developmental process for young children, and one that can benefit them into adulthood as well.

• What did you do that was kind today?
• How do you think other people feel when you are kind to them?
• If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?

Confidence Conversation Starters

We want our children to be proud of their achievements; admit mistakes and learn from them; try new things and be comfortable making friends.

It’s important for kids to recognize their talents, abilities, and skills. Asking questions that help them identify their strengths can help them realize they put their talents to good use.

• How can you make a difference in the world?
• What are you most proud of today?
• What is something that you were good at today?

You can also check out our blog on positive affirmations to help boost your child’s self-esteem and confidence here.

Tip for Conversation Starters

Questions and conversation starters should be natural, not an interrogation. Limit the “big questions” to one or two a day. Make the time to talk with your child about their thoughts and ideas and show them that you’re interested in hearing what they have to say.

About Tiny Terrors

Tiny Terrors is an award-winning in-home parenting and behaviour support agency. Our aim is to equip you with the tools and strategies you need to manage and encourage more positive behaviour and help improve everyday activities with your child.

At Tiny Terrors we will offer individually customised consultations and programs to suit your family and their needs. We realise that your child is unique and therefore adapt methods to best suit your family. By offering an in-home service we know that your children are more likely to respond positively to methods implemented in their comfort zone and in familiar surroundings.

Read more here: ABOUT US – Tiny Terrors